You
don’t get to pick your finest hour. However, you do get to chose how you live
in moment-to-moment.
I don’t know who said that, oh wait yes I do it was me!
Just now when I wrote that line that said; “You don’t get to pick your finest
hour. However, you do get to chose how you live moment-to- moment.” Quote,
credit due to me! Ha!
Anyway, so the social worker in me would love to sit and
tell you how you are better served to surround yourself with people that are
conducive to your goals and can help you facilitate the positive change in your
life that you want to see. In tandem with this effort you are tasked to drop
those from your life that seek to deter, distract or are generally unhelpful in
your goals.
But of course, much like the phrase uttered in the Count
of Monte Cristo (film) “It’s complicated.” Because what if those that do not
hold your best interests at heart are close to you? A wise person (pretty wise
at least) once told me “We could play the ‘what if’ game all day.” Meaning, if
you are holding on to someone based on the 0.0007% chance they will do the
right thing in regards to your welfare, well sir or madam you are sorely
mistaken. Statistically you are a fool. Therefore, in real life you are going
to be proven a fool.
Saying you have to get rid of a family member, close
friend or confidant can be an anxiety-inducing decision. All that being said,
at the end of the day no one is going to watch out for you like you watch out for you.
“But, but
DavidIWriteStuff? Surely, this topic didn’t come to pass by accident?” - a fan asks (I mean assuming my ‘fans” both
exist and can form a decent question).
No, no it did not. However, my goal is not to call out
anyone, but to merely help others who’s bullshit meter may not be as highly
refined as mine.
Of course because I believe in the value of helping
people I’ve included this handy chart outlining ways you can sniff out
bullshit.
And as far as all the bullshitters out there: If you
truly care about someone, you not only care about being there, you make an
active effort to care about what is important to them. If someone can’t do that for you, they simply
don’t care.
