When
I think about how happy I am, I think of you.
When
I think of you, I think of how different we are.
When
I think about our differences, I think about your strength.
When
I think about strength, I think about our love.
Based
on my past (or even my present) I cannot type this and proclaim to now be some
expert on marriage. That assertion would be laughable. However, what I have
learned is what works.
There’s
a lot that’s obvious to me after 3 months of marriage to you. Foremost among
them, and as evidenced by the above half-assed haiku, I am no poet. The main
thing though is that one key reason for a marriage to fail can be traced back
to not knowing what you have until it’s gone.
Even
before our wedding I knew what I had in you. Someone that would support without
nagging. Someone that would care without being critical. Someone who would love
without judgment.
I
am free to be myself, even as that person subtly changes over time. That is
something that I have never experienced with anyone else. The only expectations
are: That I love you in return and make you happy. God help me if I ever falter
on either of those two points.
People
always ask me, “David how will I know when it’s the right time to get married?”
Nope
wait, hold on - this has actually never happened. Alternatively, I insert
myself in to their conversations about marriage straight away and tell them
they are asking themselves the wrong question, and instead should be asking; “Have
I found the right person to get
married to?”
People
sometimes say, “Relationships are hard, relationships are work.” These people
are wrong. If you are with the right person, relationships are easy. Getting
along, living and loving together is effortless. You’ve reminded me what love
is, and that marriage exists as an expression of and dedication to that rare
kind of love.
If
I could ask anything of you after 3 months it would be simply; keep setting the
tone, and I will keep doing my best to respond in kind. But as a reminder I am
a slow learner when it comes to these matters, so please be patient.
Always
know that I love you.
