Showing posts with label david i write stuff. Show all posts
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Wednesday, June 17, 2020

As Simple As I Can Make It

As Simple as I Can Make It


 

I will first give a bit of a disclaimer that I am not trying to “mansplain” the below items and even more so I am not claiming to be an expert in race relations or racism. What I am, is a white, cisgender, hetero male who has a bit of valuable perspective (Of course, we all think that don’t we?) and much like everyone else, an opinion.  

 

A (white) co-worker of mine asked me a few days ago to define white privilege. Certainly not an easy task, but one as a social worker I do take seriously. My response was pretty murky; “Depends on who you ask and what their experience is, some would say there’s no such thing, others would say it’s changed their life for the better… or the worse”. She asked that I write something outlining my thoughts (namely a research article) on the topic, but I don’t feel academic scholars are necessarily going to define this in a way that helps any of us. However, now that I have had time to think about the topic, I would say the first step is to define privilege in a social context on its own. Therefore, according to lil’ ole’ me; privilege is any advantage(s) bestowed upon a person through personal characteristics they are born into or come into via lifestyle decisions, spoken or unspoken that places them in a better position to secure opportunities over others. It bears mentioning that privilege can drop into one’s life in many forms (religion, socioeconomic, geographic etc). For me, that may mean these basic demographics (white, cisgender, hetero male) equate to me winning the biopsychosocial lottery.

            Admittedly, even without all that academia defining privilege can still be a mouthful, right? So let’s break it down while focusing just on specifically white privilege.

Being White- Advantage

            Some people may say; “How is being white an advantage? My life isn’t easy. I have had to work and scrape my whole life just to get by”. Well, boo-boo it’s called “white privilege”, not “white guaranteed free ride with no resistance 100% of the time”. Frankly, people (I’d argue most people) are more comfortable with those like them. You may have gotten into that doctor that was all booked up for someone else because the scheduler thought your name sounded “more white”.

Born Into- Advantage

            You may have gotten mental health treatment at a young age simply because your parents could afford to live in an affluent zip code that had a clinic you could visit. Somebody somewhere else wasn’t so lucky and their mental health might’ve worsened into their adulthood as a result. See how both lives could be changed dramatically just based on that one seemingly minor occurrence?

Spoken or Unspoken- Advantage

            The potential what-ifs are astounding, more on that later though. The focal point currently in these first two examples is you may not even know you benefitted (hence unspoken).

            On the other hand, have you ever been told you got a job or a promotion because your boss wasn’t willing to hire that “Indian dot-not-feather lady” or that “Oriental”? Ideally, all bigots would operate overtly and at least we’d know where we stand*. However, the question becomes if you were told such a thing, or even suspected it, would you still take the position? Would you even question your boss?

Better Positioning for Opportunities- Advantage

            All of the above scenarios, while hypothetical, work together to give a leg up to you based on the amount of melanin, or lack thereof, you might have.

            Again, some might ask, “David, if there are more people of color in power positions today, how is it that white privilege can still exist?” Simple, boo-boo, for generations those in power (namely the white and the rich) have done such a great job of indoctrinating people, they’ve managed to convince most people of color that white people are “better” in some form or fashion. There is reporting to back this up in several forms; one such example is how police officers of color are forced to conform to the ways of their white peers and utilize police practices that target people of color over whites.  

Simple as Can Be

            The culprit for any type of privilege is bias. The problem is this bias can often be subconscious. Meaning, on a given day, if you are asked if you are racist, you may answer honestly by saying, “No”. On the contrary, if a driver later cuts you off in traffic and the first thing you use to describe them while you’re cursing them is a racial slur, you might want to do some self-examination.

            Look, I realize that this less than 1,000-word essay isn’t going to result in the elimination of privilege or racism. Yet, all of us, people that are impacted by privilege on both sides need to be honest about its benefits and existence so that we can do our best to reduce its impact.

 

 

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*Most whites I know (myself included) have been subjected to casual racism in the form of a joke that is in poor taste. I feel this is one way for racists to “test the waters” with their white acquaintances to see if they need to call their hood supplier and schedule you a fitting. My advice is, awkwardness be damned, you call those people out immediately. If it’s a work setting and you are afraid of risking your job, then find a new one, that’s no excuse. My hope would be that if a room full of Islamic guys were trashing WASPs, someone would have the scruples to speak up on your behalf. Even if the answer is no, hold yourself to a higher standard and do the right thing.

 


Sunday, October 20, 2019

Resiliency and Faith




Foreword:

Yes it has been an astonishing 3 months since I have written anything outside of a graduate paper for school. Here is where I would normally apologize for my absence, but it does not seem fitting this time around. Although, I have had stints where I am not writing, this has been the longest stretch since I began this blog back in 2013.
Though I will not apologize for being gone*, I will explain. School, coupled with the emotional toll my work seems to have on my ability to write was recently compounded by my decision to switch platforms (from Blogger to Wix) earlier this year and sort of "rebrand". The inability to successfully convert readership from one site to another, initially frustrated me, but then caused me to shy away from writing altogether. I felt “icky” when I thought about posting, became defeated by it, and ultimately did not do it. At present I have been posting to both sites until such a time I can figure out what the end game will be.
Anyway, I feel compelled to write this as I know it will benefit someone other than myself. Today’s post is dedicated to those that beat themselves up because life got in the way of doing something that was important to you. Know that it is not the end of the line, taking a break isn’t the same as quitting and in this life there are few things that are forever. Enjoy the opportunity to do them, whenever and wherever they come regardless of the frequency.
- D


Resiliency and Faith
The impact of spirituality on healing, resilience, outlook and capacity for change is not to be underestimated. Researchers have shown us that the impact of faith in dealing with trauma, whether it is in the form of the atrocities of war, the loss of a spouse or even cumulative microaggressions.
“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed” (2 Corinthians 4:8-9, NIV). Plainly stated, spirituality helps build resistance against depression and anxiety symptoms (Dewey, 2019). Moreover, per Dewey (2019) after a great bulk of research dating back to World War II, it has been proven that those with faith function better in terms of recovery from trauma.

In another area where faith is a helpful tool in overcoming barriers, those with terminal illnesses can lean on faith for improved outcomes as well (Johnson, 2003). The ability to cope with and understand death is eased by faith. According to Johnson (2003) spirituality assists with reducing personal worry, feelings of being a burden to others and ideas of things left undone. It is during the “living-dying interval” (the space between receiving a terminal diagnosis and the time of one’s passing) that a person’s spirituality may actually evolve.

Sadly, unlike the remaining seven dimensions of wellness (Emotional, Environmental, Financial, Intellectual, Occupational, Physical, Social) spirituality is set apart by the need for some level of faith, regardless of a client’s personal beliefs. Because of the fact that the seven other dimensions can be more defined by statistical, concrete research they have been more readily accepted by the medical and wellness community. Due to spirituality being largely unquantifiable in terms of the material world, its use within counseling in particular remains underutilized by practitioners (Dewey, 2019).

A potential solution for this would be the realization that spirituality is not what a patient believes necessarily, but that they believe something and have something to lean on in difficult times. In secular settings that provide treatment these ideas need explored, but the counselor does not have to be an expert in every faith. Rather, they need to be aware of its power and have at least a superficial ability to understand how individual patients use spirituality to cope.


References
Dewey,  J. (2019). Posttraumatic growth. Salem Press Encyclopedia. Retrieved from https://search-ebscohost-com.lopes.idm.oclc.org/login.aspx?direct=true&db=ers&AN=90558430&site=eds-live&scope=site
Johnson, L. S. (2003). Facilitating spiritual meaning-making for the individual with a diagnosis of a terminal illness. (Issues and Insights). Counseling and Values, (3), 230. Retrieved from https://search-ebscohost-com.lopes.idm.oclc.org/login.aspx?direct=true&db=edsgao&AN=edsgcl.100485214&site=eds-live&scope=site


*That being said, I cannot stress enough how much I take solace in the fact that people actually still pay any attention to my ramblings whatsoever. Know that I am very thankful for any eyes that come across these words and any online support you show. 

Friday, May 11, 2018

Infinitely Entertained


                “In time, you will know what it's like to lose. To feel so desperately that you're right. Yet to fail all the same.” – Thanos

Rights to Disney/Marvel

The Review           

            To be a proper hero you need a great villain. Someone who is powerful, intelligent, persuasive, maybe some can even be sympathetic to the cause. To sum it up; heroes need a substantial threat, especially the super-powered kind. The viewer (see also reader or player) needs to feel as though there is some sense of danger and suspense surrounding the protagonist for which they are rooting. Avengers: Infinity War accomplishes that in this writer’s view.
            So it’s here I want to write about my experience with Avengers: Infinity War. Now that I have completed enough therapy sessions after watching it to feel that I can discuss it and not need a safe space.
            I won’t go into spoilers here, even though I imagine if you are interested in the MCU you’ve likely already ventured to the theater or at least uncovered details of the plot elsewhere. It’s safe to say,  it was full every emotion;  action on many different fronts, touches of great humor between the characters (Bucky and Rocket to name just one), love, respect, and much, much more.
            You may have guessed by now overall, I loved the movie. I grew up with these heroes in nothing but comic book form and the imagination of a teenager to power them. There is something deeply appealing to me about seeing these heroes literally come to life. It is even greater to see them come together in order to overcome the impossible. It motivates me to press on in the face of adversity. That quite simply is the highest compliment you can pay to any art form (Yes I just referred to a genre where the main characters wear tights as an “art form”), is that it pushes you to be a better human being.

The Haters


            What’s odd to me is I continue to see people on social media express their disdain for the super hero genre as overdone, childish or predictable. And to those people, I would say it is. It’s based on fictional characters that have incredible otherworldly powers, also there’s a guy that shoots arrows. All of them are equally interesting to me because of what they stand for, even the villains. So if you don’t like super hero films I have two pieces of advice: 1) Go back to watching Downton Abbey, and 2) Fuck right off because no one asked for your opinion (Somewhat ironic coming from a blogger, no?).

Where I’d Like to See the Next Movie Go

      I enjoy the Avengers (and many DC characters as well). However, my favorite team is the X-Men, specifically Wolverine. As such, it is my hope that at least in the post credit scene of Avengers 4 we get a sneak peek of the X-Men and/or the Fantastic Four. Although, if Disney/Marvel really wants this writer (and many other fanboys and girls) to completely geek out, a full crossover and meeting of these teams fighting side-by-side with the Avengers would be epic (And trust me I’m not the type of guy to throw around the word epic very often)!

            For now, the opening day for the yet untitled Avengers 4 is slated for May 3, 2019. In the meantime, I’ll keep snapping my fingers in anticipation.

Rights to Disney/Marvel


Monday, January 30, 2017

Rock Star Student


The below is an actual assignment for one of my 300 level college courses. We were asked to introduce ourselves to the rest of the class in a creative way...Since my fellow classmates didn't take the time to fully appreciate this, I thought I'd share it here...Enjoy!


The most non-traditional of the non-traditional students is David Scott, and Rolling Stone had the chance to catch up with him as he prepared for the launch of his Spring semester. We were able to sit down with the underwhelming undergrad himself and get his take on a few key questions:

RS: Not too many students name their Spring semesters David, why did you name yours, and tell us exactly what “B.Y.O.B” means?
DS: I think in order to fully commit myself to this semester, the serious student, artist, deep thinker such as myself needs a theme they can commit to, and maybe even aspire to. “B.Y.O.B.” is exactly that, it’s here, it’s loud, and it’s in your face. It’s so many things it defies labels. But if I were to put a label on it-and I’m going to- I’d say it’s contemporary…to the point that it’s retro.
RS: So it has something for every generation?
DS: Well, ya sure, I mean I’m a 36 year old student, with an awesome girlfriend and four occasionally horrible pain in the butt dogs, who got sick and tired of the greed and corruption of the corporate world man. I, I just said enough man! And then decided to major in Social Work, ‘cause like who needs money man?
RS: Wait, what? Sorry, let’s back up, what exactly does “B.Y.O.B.” stand for?
DS: Oh ya, sorry…”Bring Your Own Brain” It’s like who needs Google, or Wikipedia. It’s like getting back to the roots of studying- spiral notebook, pencil, textbook. And you know, just shut up and learn.
RS: Ok and when does “B.Y.O.B” drop?
DS: Oh, it done dropped! I mean we are living it right now, Spring 2017 semester has started!
RS: And you’ll be touring to promote “B.Y.O.B”?
DS: You call it ‘touring’ I call it ‘going to class’ but yes, I have some appearances planned.
RS: Now that we’ve got business out of the way, tell us more about the real David, behind the scenes?
DS: There’s not a lot to it really. I mean my goal is to make the Dean’s list every semester until I graduate with honors. Rock my placement at DCS through the stipend program and then build and position my brand so I can take over the world.
RS: And in a David-controlled world what could fans look forward to?
DS: Merchandising.
RS: Merchandising?
DS: Yes, I’m talking David Scott products in every consumer category known to humankind! Lunchboxes, non-smoking ashtrays, key chains, pre-flushing toilets, dry towelettes, energy drinks, bacon- flavored dog treats, mouse-flavored cat treats, hardhats, placemats—
RS: David-
DS: Doormats-
RS: David!
DS: Floor mats-
RS: DAVID!
DS: Hazmats-
RS: DAVID! Stop please, let’s get back on track?
DS: Certainly, what else would you like to know?
RS: How does Criminal Justice factor into all this?
DS: Batman.
RS: I’m sorry? You decided to Minor in Criminal Justice because of Batman?
DS: No, because I AM Batman!
RS: …That’s not true. Is it?

DS: No…but it sounds cool, eh?