When it Matters Most

You don’t get to pick your finest hour. However, you do get to chose how you live in moment-to-moment.

            I don’t know who said that, oh wait yes I do it was me! Just now when I wrote that line that said; “You don’t get to pick your finest hour. However, you do get to chose how you live moment-to- moment.” Quote, credit due to me! Ha!

            Anyway, so the social worker in me would love to sit and tell you how you are better served to surround yourself with people that are conducive to your goals and can help you facilitate the positive change in your life that you want to see. In tandem with this effort you are tasked to drop those from your life that seek to deter, distract or are generally unhelpful in your goals.

            But of course, much like the phrase uttered in the Count of Monte Cristo (film) “It’s complicated.” Because what if those that do not hold your best interests at heart are close to you? A wise person (pretty wise at least) once told me “We could play the ‘what if’ game all day.” Meaning, if you are holding on to someone based on the 0.0007% chance they will do the right thing in regards to your welfare, well sir or madam you are sorely mistaken. Statistically you are a fool. Therefore, in real life you are going to be proven a fool.

            Saying you have to get rid of a family member, close friend or confidant can be an anxiety-inducing decision. All that being said, at the end of the day no one is going to watch out for you like you watch out for you.

            “But, but DavidIWriteStuff? Surely, this topic didn’t come to pass by accident?”  - a fan asks (I mean assuming my ‘fans” both exist and can form a decent question).

            No, no it did not. However, my goal is not to call out anyone, but to merely help others who’s bullshit meter may not be as highly refined as mine.

            Of course because I believe in the value of helping people I’ve included this handy chart outlining ways you can sniff out bullshit.

            

            And as far as all the bullshitters out there: If you truly care about someone, you not only care about being there, you make an active effort to care about what is important to them.  If someone can’t do that for you, they simply don’t care.

Letter to the World

Before you read this, it might bear some explaining. Right now I am in the midst of writing one of the most difficult things I have ever undertaken.

                My idea was to create a letter to all the people that have impacted my life, for better and for worse. Then these essays were to be combined and saved as a bit of a legacy for the day when I am not around any longer.

               

                Ambitious, certainly. A bit macabre, perhaps. A bit over the top, definitely. However, the thought of not being here for the people that I care about most, the inkling of leaving something worthwhile, or important unsaid chills me. I want to get it all out there, down on paper, as best as I can articulate it, so they too have something to hold onto.

                Which brings me to what follows; this is the section that covers everyone in the world that I don’t know. Yes, that’s right since everyone I know well will have their own letter, in an effort to cover all my bases I’ve also written one as a catch all for the entire human race.

                That’s not to say that I don’t think there’s value in what follows- quite the opposite.  Though brief, I believe these three points speak volumes.

                But I suppose now that I’ve shared this you can be the judge of what comes next, and this whole crazy endeavor…

A Letter to the World

        For all the people that I haven’t met, which I guess is most of you. I would like to share three things. Yes, I understand that this writing is supposed to epitomize and represent the pinnacle of my time on earth. But I also know that people like simplicity, and in this time of internet memes and 140 character statements, brevity is a prized skill…

        What follows are three tenets that I’d like everyone to remember and carry with them from here on out:

1)      The human race won’t be destroyed by disease or war; we will be content to do ourselves in on convenience and distraction.

2)      Somewhere along the line we’ve confused being tough with not giving a shit.

3)      We shouldn’t get so caught up in how other people live their lives as long as they are A) not hurting anyone else B) they are happy.

       

                You know as well as I do, that I could go on (and on and on) but I think the above is sufficient. It’s here I will the culmination of my worldly wisdom I have on to everyone, and hope that it is at least a starting point for people to build from.

Humbly, I step into the shadow now without complaint.

David